Thursday, September 8, 2011

The Cards I'm Dealt

I've recently started a book called Redefining the Three Rs:  Relax, Refocus, Recharge by Anthony D. Fredericks.  It was given to me by the author when I worked in the library after he came and did a presentation for the students.  It's a collection of two-page "devotional" type writings, geared towards teachers, but anyone could read it.  I try to read a page a day.

Today's reading was titled "Be Grateful."  A few lines struck me, especially after Tuesday's stressfulness and yesterday's calm after the storm.  Fredericks says:  "Life is not fair.  Life is full of bumps, twists, and turns, potholes and dead ends, and other challenges along the road.  Life is not about being fair.  It's about what we do with the cards we are dealt."

I thought about those lines quite a bit today.  I thought about how there are many days when I'm dealt a hand that I just want to fold.  I keep hoping--no, I am fighting--to make that royal flush with the cards I'm dealt, but usually, I get pairs and three of a kinds.  Every once in a while, I get a straight flush for a surprise.  They're all winning hands, but I'm really, REALLY trying hard to make that royal flush.


  1. Jill,
    You are an AMAZING woman; I honestly don't know HOW you do it all! I just "caught" up on your blog (thanks to being sick and home with Rebekah) and I'm in awe of your energy and dedication to your family! I hope and pray that Lily is feeling better! I hope you enjoy your Starbucks card and get to read "The Help" someday. Thank you for sharing your "financial plan". Makes me realize there is a LOT we could do differently! You inspire me to be a better person, parent, and therapist without even know it! Thank you! Many hugs and prayers to you

  2. Jill,
    I'm sorry you have days when you are dealt difficult hands, but my first reaction many difficult "hands" is poor Lily being dealt on a daily basis? My next reaction to this blurb is: my feelings would come secondary to my child's. Of course, I'm speaking from my own perspective of having rheumatoid arthritis for 21 years and 18 surgeries during that time and at least 3 more to come in the next year and a half. My parents are both deceased...but their childrens' illnesses and feelings were always their first concern. This made my siblings and I much more caring people. I know you love your child, but try putting the emphasis on her...maybe you'll have fewer difficult "hands" to deal with. Take care.